To this day, I do not remember her ever again in so much pain. The shock that day of seeing my mother so distraught at the loss of her own mother has remained with me ever since as a reminder of just what a mother means to a child. At the same time, that day my mother lost for me this image and veneer of composure and hardness that she had held for me. No longer was she the firm but fair, strict, disciplinarian mother but just another softie who could openly cry in front of her whole family. I gained something that day but also lost a little.
I learnt that it was okay to be expressive and show your emotions, especially when it is around your mother.
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Also, if my mother could cry like that, then so could I. Over the years, I have seen my mother go through further trials and tribulations. I saw her cry again the day my older sister got married — but at least that was on a happy occasion. Those were the tears of a happy mother seeing her daughter off to a new and hopefully happy life. That day I cried too, partly to give her some company.
Once she was in real physical pain as she badly cut a finger whilst opening a can of fruit. Somehow the can opener slipped and she gashed herself. She was taken to the nearest hospital for some emergency stitches. To this day I regret how I refused to accompany her to hospital as I was engrossed with some TV show. There have of course been many happy memories of my mother and none more so when my youngest sister was born. The day they came back from hospital was one of the happiest days in our family.
This was in stark contrast to few days before when she was rushed off to hospital for the imminent birth, leaving behind her four very young children in the care of the neighbours. I remembered when I left for college for the first time and she cried as she saw me off.
This has kind of come true as I have not lived with my parents ever since, having gone off to work in other cities ever since college. In recent years, my mother has taken on a new persona of invincibility and strength. Though she went through a lot of pain for a few weeks during her rehabilitation after the knee replacement operations, the surgeons have literally given her a new lease of life.
She is now much more mobile than she has been for the last decade or so and the arthritic pain is almost all gone. It is like having a new mother — the wrinkles are deeper but the energy and motion is much more youthful. I am expecting her to take up some new sports this summer such as netball, cricket or soccer for the over seventies. But then again perhaps not — she should maybe just stick to racing around her garden without her walking stick. There have been so many special moments and memories of my mother and I guess I was spoilt quite a bit being the youngest of three brothers.
I always got away with my cheekiness and naughtiness whereas my siblings may have been reprimanded. Other children, even your siblings can be so cruel with their relentless teasing and name calling.
To this day, every time I call her, my mother still asks if I have eaten yet, no matter what time of day or night I call her! I think all mothers must be programmed somehow to check that their children have eaten, are warm and are generally okay and happy. I can imagine my mother still checking up about my tummy even when I am sixty and an old man.
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She is a worrier if ever there was one. No matter how many times my mother asks about my health and the fulfillment state of my ravenous stomach, I would have her no other way. She is the way she is, and I am who I am because of her. I owe her everything I have and a lot more. And yet I know that like all other mothers, she expects nothing back from me.
How well that proverb rings true, especially amongst Indian families, where our culture and tradition places a mother alongside god and godliness. Create a special day for her, not withstanding the commercial hype, and remind her once again just how much she means to you. So in a way you owe your life to her more than once I never want to imagine a time without her. Thank you sharing stories about your mother, it was touching and honest. Most moms are kind and caring and reason the way we are. I really appreciated my mom, after I had kids.
Now she calls me from east coast to remind me to wear sweater in california, I get it.
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Arvind, As a mother and daughter, I find this post particularly beautiful as it captures the essence of motherhood and special relationship between mother and child. As a child youngest , I remember the first time I saw my Mum cry Only twice.
She had returned home from hospital where she had spent a few days after a miscarriage. She had missed us. She also knew that this was her family, complete. I could write a book on all her selfless gestures. Now she is most;y confined to bed with Alzeimers. I miss her most when I am shopping and wish she was with me. Most of all I miss her strength as she was an emotional rock. As a mother, I regularly dont like pie.
It is the enigma of motherhood. And remind me to make you some pie, next time we meet I was in India with my mum with both of us going through a challenging time when it was mothers day in the UK. Great article Arvind and kudos for spreading the message of honouring our mothers.
Amit, I remember speaking to you whilst you were in India and trying your level best to get your ailing mother safe and sound back to the UK. You are such a hero for getting through what you did — I bet you have one very produ mother All rights reserved. No content on this site may be used in any fashion without written consent from Arvind Devalia.
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She said: "A printed card means nothing except that you are too lazy to write to the woman who has done more for you than anyone in the world. Mothering Sunday in the US is an annual holiday held on the second Sunday in May, so the date slightly varies each year.
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The UK's Mother's Day always falls on the fourth Sunday during the period of Lent, when people typically give up things like certain foods or bad habits for the days leading up to Easter. There are no hard and fast rules about what to offer your mother on this special day but plenty of people kick things off with a nice breakfast in bed.
For those with younger kids, this may just be jam on toast - or even just a mess on a tray - while the oldies may want to whip up some eggs and a freshly squeezed OJ. Lots of people also opt for a bunch of flowers with tulips being a good value, seasonal choice. Sign in. All Football. Here's the surprising reason why pumpkins are associated with Halloween.
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